Legal issues disrupt life for church community

CALGARY, AB—Church disputes are a harsh reality for many congregations across Canada and the ramifications can be far reaching when problems escalate into the legal sphere.
Such was the case for South Calgary Community Church (SCCC), a growing Baptist congregation with plans for expansion. When some former members alleged they were victims of spiritual abuse at the hands of church leadership, lawyers got involved and the situation got messy.
Last April, Barry and Jennifer Pendergast set up a website detailing their experience at SCCC, several months after leaving the church where they were involved in a lawsuit against the board of elders who had revoked their membership not once, but twice.
Much of the Pendergasts’ site details and documents their clash with former SCCC pastor Jim Wallace and church elders that began in 2003.
The last two years have included a barrage of e-mail exchanges, letters and meetings between the Pendergasts and the church—and thousands of dollars in legal fees on both sides. The couple also says their physical health has suffered.
The Pendergasts, now attending a different church in Calgary, say they will “tell their side of the story…at every opportunity presented to them.”
“Networking with others around the world going through the same challenges is an amazing experience,” Barry told ChristianWeek. “We decided we must bring the topic of spiritual and emotional abuse in church settings out of the closet and into the light.”
They chose to post the official documents in their case on their website “for others to see with no secrecy and full openness. Many others…have told us their hurt and pain has been validated by knowing they are not alone. There are so many common factors in the way the abuse unfolded in secrecy and shame.”
The Pendergasts say the problems began with a disagreement with church leadership about a ministry opportunity. From there it escalated when the two sides couldn’t come to a workable solution. The church elders, saying they were acting in accordance with church constitution and bylaws, removed the Pendergasts from church membership.
The Pendergasts, who say church leaders refused to meet with them within a satisfactory time frame, launched a lawsuit. A mediator became involved which led to the couple’s reinstatement as members.
However, the Pendergasts say they came back to a “very cool reception.”
Jennifer says she was not allowed to visit the pre-school she was once headed. Barry could not attend the men’s breakfast he founded. They say church elders followed them about, one telling Barry “I’m protecting the flock,” when Barry challenged him.
The relationship fell apart a short time later when both sides felt the other was not living up to their side of the agreement. The church, with legal advisors on side, permanently removed the couple from membership in November 2004.
The Pendergasts say they have since learned they are not the only ones who struggled at SCCC. They say others have come forward with claims of abusive behaviour by church leadership, including a 15-year member of the church who developed severe psychological stress after “clashing” with Wallace and being stripped of her ministry responsibilities, and a popular youth pastor who resigned from SCCC after just two years, feeling “harassed and undermined” by church officials.
Wallace, now living in Kentucky where he is caring for his aging parents, says the matter involving the Pendergasts was “an unfortunate case of church discipline.” He says the church tried to resolve the issue internally but found their hands tied once lawyers got involved.
Still, he maintains the Pendergasts did get their chance to make their case. “The charge that the church didn’t hear them just is not a fair charge in my mind.” The allegation that the elders would not meet with them is “unequivocally false and it can be documented as such,” he says.  “The elders went to great lengths to set up repeated meetings and it was the Pendergasts who cancelled and postponed.”
Wallace says he is aware of the claims on the Pendergast’s website, but says he has made the decision “to take the high road, and to try not to continue the battle.”
Wallace, a leading Calgary clergyman for more than 20 years who was recently awarded the Alberta Centennial Medal, says the situation has “been an attack against his integrity and reputation.” But he adds, “in the midst of all of this God has encouraged us in other ways,” including solid support from friends and acquaintances across Canada.
Meanwhile, the Pendergasts say they hope to work with Christian academic institutions to openly discuss the topic of spiritual abuse with future church leaders, perhaps developing manuals and a think tank. Last fall they helped to organize a spiritual abuse seminar at Alberta Bible College.
“We want to be very proactive and develop more discerning followers who are critical thinkers who will follow good leaders with a vision and proper attitude but be wiling to take a stand on any form of subtle or deep abuse,” says Barry. “It’s of great importance to us to seek out proactive ways to heal the abusers as well as heal the abused.”

Please visit Seeking A Wise Man page to get a fuller background to the efforts made by the Pendergasts for a fair resolution of their disagreements with Pastor Wallace and the Elders at South Calgary Community Church.

For the original article visit Christian Week.

Some added notes from the Pendergasts - Barry and Jennifer know this is not a problem isolated to South Calgary Community Church . They are looking for responsible and courageous Christian leaders who are willing to tackle this problem. In the article we note Pastor Wallace says" "The allegation that the elders would not meet with them is "unequivocally false and it can be documented as such", he says. " The elders went to great lengths to set up repeated meetings and it was the Pendergasts who cancelled and postponed". Its interesting for the Pendergasts to note that neither Wallace nor Clark Grue, also noted on ths page as a elder spokesman were at the three meetings held with the Pendergasts. Wallaces knowledge is therefore also second hand as that of elder Grue.This site has adequate evidence that the Pendergasts did not refuse to meet, only that it be under reasonable and fair circumstances with a independent third party present. A request made many times. A view supported by the mediator - Mr Lang and others who had experienced Wallace's aggressive tactics in closed discipline hearings. Any delays for the final meeting were based on concern by Mr Lang and Jennifer Pendergast's doctors over her health - she was hospitaised twice as a result of the stress of the actions by Wallace and the elders. It should be noted we have disclosed all key documents on this site - will Wallace make his evidence available to support his published comments? Pastor Wallace says he is aware of the claims on the Pendergast’s website, but says he has made the decision “to take the high road, and to try not to continue the battle.” We assume Wallace is happy to leave his victims to survive by themselves while he goes onto greater things and fame. Maybe the political career more suited to his personality and as predicted by the Calgary Herald some years back. With the stories of four who claim abuse by Wallace and others now exposed, we will let the readers make their own assumptions. Perhaps the five youth pastors and youth ministry interns forced to leave might like to comment? These are only few of many more. We believe Wallace's need to control, bully and abuse others likely comes from deep hurts in his own past. We continue to pray for Wallace to come to a honest realization of what he has done and be on a path to healing. In contrast to comments on honesty and integrity by Wallace and Grue, the Pendergasts are happy to let their heavenly Father make His judgement on their actions. They make no profession they are better than any other sinner.